Public Sex: Yay or Nay?

Public Sex: Yay or Nay?
Martin Moore
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There are only two kinds of thoughts that goes on in the mind of someone having sex in public. The first is to not get caught. And the second is, what to do when you get caught? (Read: Get a lawyer.) I mean, obviously, there are other things going on in their heads as well. Things like ‘wow this is so hot’ or ‘should I lie down on this dirty floor or pick my partner up?’ will most definitely also make their rounds in the head every once in a while. 

At times, reaching that climax might be the only thing in your mind. Yes, all of that is there, and equally important. But anyone who is considering engaging in sexual practices in public will have to think about getting caught, or not, at a given moment of time. And they must know what to do when that happens. Or better still, they must know how to avoid getting caught. 

Okay or not Okay?

Don’t worry, if you can’t think of how to go about under these circumstances, this article will help. I have always wondered what it’s like to have sex in a car. With cars though, we never know whether it will count as public sex or not. The thrill of getting caught, or not, is still very much there. What is needed in a situation like this, is being up to date on the laws of your state and country. I’ve decided to dedicate a whole section to this!

Exhibitionism and Voyeurism can at times, be the reasons why anyone would want to expose their naked bottom to the world. (Here, check out what dogging is!) The truth, however, is that many people want to do it just for the heck of it. The legality of it all is different for different states. Many people see liberal sexual behavior as offensive. Many people are lenient and wouldn’t mind a bit naked display of affection.

Bottom-line is, whatever may be rules made and applied by the states be, there are some things similar in each case of public sex. It helps to know a few things if you’ve been thinking about getting it on in a church in the wilderness right beside someone’s gravestone. Sorry if I made it sound gruesome, but someone actually did it…let’s therefore, begin this article with two stories before moving on to the more serious bits.

Anecdotes From The Adventurous Souls

When you’re a bunch of crazy kids who throw their clothes in the air like they just don’t care.

church in nature

It was a church and they knew as well that Jesus was probably going to be mad at them later. But they did it anyway. These two 23-year-olds are actually my partner’s sister and her boyfriend. They were walking in a forest in the evening – and I honestly do not know why, because this could have turned into a horror movie real fast. 

So, there was this really beautiful church, which looked like no one had been around there much in the last few days. Obviously, these two then went in to explore it. The two of them being a bunch of 23-year-olds, they actually started making out in there. One thing led to another and the next thing I know my partner was telling me this is what her sister’s been up to that evening.

The most amusing fact is once they were getting out, they saw another couple heading in their direction. They went to the same spot where they had been getting it on – near the back of the church, overlooking the trees, beside a huge gravestone, to be precise. So what, is that church in the wilderness some kind of mating ground now?

Now, here’s what could have gone wrong: they could have been watched, filmed, or worse, confronted. These kids – or the next couple, by the looks of it – didn’t really think much before doing what they did, but you can. I’m just going to put it here that having sex in public is actually an offense, in many states. And engaging in public sex can get you locked up behind bars. 

When you go to the library for more than just books. But since you’re a student – and we all know studying is hard – so it’s okay, mostly, sort of.

library as a place for public sex

The second anecdote is about this person who was my study partner, for a brief amount of time. I used to go to the library to study, right before an important exam. There was this other girl there as well. We’d usually study a few hours together and take a lunch break in between whenever one of us got hungry. Our schedules weren’t synched or anything though.

So, this one time I was late. And maybe she thought I wasn’t going to come around to study that day. When I went up to the library, maybe 20 minutes later than usual, well, I saw her there. I also saw her books but she wasn’t really paying much attention to them. I took one look at what she was doing and made a complete U-turn. When I came back 20 more minutes later, and she was right there, studying as if nothing had happened. I have a feeling she didn’t really see me the first time but that’s neither here nor there.

Be Mindful Of Others

As you probably already know, I am all for self-love so I didn’t really mind getting a glimpse of someone pleasuring themselves. Exams are hard and people get horny at unusual times, I get it. But it did shake me a bit. I seldom go to the library and find women with their hands inside their pants, moaning. Other people might not be so understanding, though.

We should never forget to take into account the number of reasons why someone would engage in sexual acts in public – self-pleasure or otherwise. To the list of exhibitionism, voyeurism, and possible kinks of getting turned on in mostly abandoned churches, let’s add stress, pressure, and anxiety. I mean, sex in a library? People get turned on by books, this world really is a colorful place.

But what we also have to consider is, that our pleasure isn’t the point of focus for everyone. The world, unfortunately, does not revolve around a single person – we should never forget that as well. Any devout churchgoer would be heartbroken, shocked and the ‘offender’ even shunned if they heard what went on there in the church in the wilderness when my partner’s sister visited it. And I personally lost 20 minutes of study time because someone simply couldn’t get out of their chair and go to the bathroom.

Yay or Nay?

People, sex is good, and self-pleasure is wonderful but not at anyone else’s expense. Some things might make other people uncomfortable and that’s why rules exist. And by rules I mean laws. There was this case in New York where the court ruled that sex in a car is not considered sex in a public place if the car was parked away from an area where people usually go by. If they don’t see you, you’re fine.

So you see, it’s more than okay to do some things…only you must make sure that they’re not offending the general public, even if it’s sex in a public place. Because let’s face it, until and unless our kink is to show everyone how good we look naked, it’s better to do it when no one is bothered by it. Prison orange isn’t a color that suits everyone.

Laws And Penalties Of Public Sex

Now, to the more serious bits now. I’ve been touching on the legal aspect of this all a bit before but now let’s get into it. It’s mostly a misdemeanor crime. But some states might explicitly criminalize sex in public places, not everyone is equally lenient with their churches and libraries, people. 

Indecent exposure or lewd conduct will get you in trouble – I’m talking about embarrassing charges being pressed on you – so the trick is to know what’s allowed and what’s not. And after this article has acquainted you with some of the laws that you must know about public sex, we’ll move on to some public areas where you can safely pull your zippers down.

What is indecent exposure, public lewdness, or indecency?

Display of any sexual organ is indecent exposure. Be it 50 years ago or now, you still need a license for flashing. You know how in that series, “The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel”, the main character Midge ended up being carried away from the stage by two police officers? She flashed her breasts without a license, even though there were strippers performing on that stage right before her! 

You wouldn’t even know it, but that could just be you. It doesn’t matter if everyone’s doing it, if you’re caught, you’ll be penalized. Having sex in public will most definitely result in the exposure of some of your sexual organs – be it just the butt – and we can’t have it. All of this is simply so that you don’t accidentally offend or alarm anyone in the public. 

What happens if you’re caught having sex in public?

bugs having public sex in nature

Starting from probation to community service to a fine, you can face any of these things if caught in a sexual act in a public place. Jail time for a year might also come your way but get yourself a good attorney and chances are you’ll only be picking trash off the roadside for a period of time.

You can always argue that you weren’t in a public place. For example, if you were in your own car, parked somewhere away from public view. Similarly, you can’t argue that just because you closed the door to the cubicle in a public restroom, you’re away from public view. You’re in a public bathroom…it’s in the name, people.

How To Not Get Caught During Public Sex

You must know what is considered a public place in the first place. That’s the only way to beat this. Public restrooms, beaches open to the public, parks, public streets and highways, and public transport – everything is risky. You can have the thrill that comes with public sex without getting caught only if you pick your places correctly. So, let’s discuss how that can be done!

The Swimming Pool

man in outdoors pool

Yes, it’s safe and yes, you also must be quiet while you’re doing it. If you and your partner decide to go crazy in the pool, and if no one is around and even if someone suddenly comes into the picture…the pool is a pretty safe place to do it.

Single Bathrooms

Yes, having sex in public bathrooms is a fantasy. So, to eliminate most of the risk, choose a bathroom with single occupancy. All you have to do is sneak in your partner and keep it quiet. I once had oral sex in a changing room. After a few minutes or so, I was told that men aren’t allowed in women’s changing rooms. All I did was walk out and no one was harmed.

In A Tent…Or Outside It

Go crazy inside, or outside, a tent while you’re away camping in the wilderness. That is one place where no one will stop you. There’s always a chance that fellow campers or hikers might spot you but that’s not something to worry about legally. You can worry about scarring some little kids to life but then again that’s the chance you’re willing to take…right?

In A Park

There are sex parks. You know it, I know it and at times, when the police come to raid these places, they know it. That is simply where the risk and the thrill coincide. Find yourselves a park such as this and see where it takes you!

To Conclude…

Public sex can be tricky and with good reason. There are simply too many variables here! You can end up scaring someone, shocking someone, or simply catching an infection yourself. But if you’ve decided to taste the thrill anyway…I’ll say start slowly. Get a hotel room and start your steamy adventure with the windows open.

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