9 Reasons to Get a Strap-On For Men
- Erectile Dysfunction
- Double Penetration
- Experience Something New
- Get to Know Your Partner Better
- He Comes Too Soon
- Different Shape or Size
- Satisfying Anal Penetration
- What to Look For in a Strap-On?
- Experiencing Gender Play
- To go Against the Grain
- The Beauty of Role Reversal
A strap-on for men??? I’m pretty sure that most people believe that if you already have a penis, you don’t really need an additional/artificial one, right? However, the reality is quite different.
A strap-on can improve anyone’s sex life regardless of sexuality or gender. It is suitable for anal sex, vaginal sex, masturbation, and manual sex. People with penises and vulvas alike can wear or receive a strap-on. These adult toys are worth finding out more about because of all the flexibility and fun they can add to the bedroom.
Regrettably, people still connect harnesses to specific gender identities, roles, and sexualities. These associations do more harm than good. Unless you want them to, specific sexual acts cannot and will not define who you are as a person.
Here are 9 good reasons to start using a strap-on for men with your male partner.
1. For Erectile Dysfunction or After Prostate Removal
Using a strap-on for men is especially helpful with chronic erectile dysfunction. Your partner might want to be giving despite their medical issues. It’s also useful if he has had his prostate removed, but wants to keep having sex the way he’s used to.
2. Strap-On For Men To Try Double Penetration
Double penetration, where a woman is penetrated anally and vaginally at the same time, might be common with group sex, but shouldn’t be reserved for it. Strap-ons are adjustable, so your partner can enter both orifices easily.
3. To Experience Something New
Changing things up in the bedroom is important, especially if they’re getting boring. If both partners agree that this is something they want to explore, they should by all means. Your sex life should be about pushing boundaries and enjoying yourself, like life in general, in fact. The only prerequisite is being well prepared for it.
4. To Get to Know Your Partner Better
With a strap-on, heterosexual couples can experience sex in a new way. Men who use strap-ons tend to be more in tune with what their female partners need from the act. Likewise, women who want to get to know their male partners better can benefit from this kind of activity, which allows them to explore their sexual boundaries.
5. If He Comes Too Soon
If your partner comes before you’re ready to stop, a strap-on is a great way to keep going. Of course, if they lose their erection completely after orgasming, this won’t be an option. That’s not the case with all men though. To make sure the act goes on for as long as you need it to, you could get them to start off with a strap-on and then move to the natural member.
6. Try a Different Shape or Size
Some women want to try a different size or shape than their partner’s. They might find a smaller or differently shaped one more comfortable or might need a bigger one. If you’re in either of these categories or just want to try something new, a strap-on will make it possible to try a different sensation without a different partner.
Size isn’t the only aspect of all of this, of course. There are many options if you want a different penis shape. Check our section on how to pick the best strap-on below.
7. To Achieve Satisfying Anal Penetration
Women will enjoy anal or vaginal penetration with a strap-on because of the A-spot and G-spot respectively. The A-spot is far less known, but it yields a sensation of fullness that you may not even be able to imagine. Short for the anterior fornix zone, the A-spot is a sensitive area at the other end of the vaginal canal. It can lead to vaginal lubrication, stronger arousal, and ultimately an orgasm with the right stimulation. This goes for men and women alike.
There are thousands of sensitive nerve endings around the anus’ opening and stimulation of this area can lead to mind-blowing orgasms, especially combined with the thrill of doing something new and different. Couples who have made it work to share that they started off easy with fingers and rimming for a month or two, watched porn with strap-ons, and worked their way up to anal plugs before finally going all out with a strap-on.
It’s undeniable that anal penetration isn’t comfortable for everyone right from the start, so getting a toy that’s smaller than the man’s penis can help you get accustomed to it slowly. Then, you can proceed to the full size.
What to Look For in a Strap-On For Men
With so many adult toys on the market, it can be hard to figure out what style and material you want and what price you are willing to pay. When choosing a strap-on, two important questions to ask yourself are: how am I going to use this product, and for what acts will I use it?
They are not the only ones though. Who will be using it and what is their body shape? Finally, you will want to know whether it’s machine-washable and how much you want to spend on it.
There are two main types of toys for this kind of penetration: a male strap-on and underwear. Underwear-type harnesses look like thongs, briefs, or boxers i.e. some kind of underwear. On the other hand, strap-ons have adjustable straps, making them an easier and snugger fit. What’s more, they are often more durable than underwear harnesses.
A strap-on can fit like your most comfortable pair of jeans, which it should. The better the fit, the better it can move with your body. If it doesn’t fit properly, you will feel out of sync with it.
The most common types of strap-ons are jockstraps and thongs. The former looks like a typical jockstrap. The latter only has a thong strap between the legs.
8. Experiencing Gender Play
Anal sex can be highly pleasurable for straight men as well because the man’s A-spot is always through the anus. According to a recent study, almost three out of four straight men have tried some sort of prostate massage. Four-fifths of women say they want to give their male partners this kind of massage.
It might seem overwhelming to go from a finger or tongue massage to a strap-on, but it really isn’t as long as you use the right amount of lubricant. Prostate stimulation can increase the strength of orgasm by as much as a third. If you can deliver the right kind, it will lead to a massive, full-body orgasm rather than only a genital one. Prostate stimulation is for everyone – straight, gay, bi, and everyone with male anatomy.
Some men describe having an orgasm with a strap-on like a strike of “lightning” running through their veins. They feel the orgasm throughout the body, not just in the genitalia, much like the way women experience orgasms.
Some women report intense sexual excitement even before the strap-on session. Hearing your male partner moan and looking at his face during multiple orgasms is incredibly arousing. A woman might orgasm from the gentlest rub against her partner’s body or the harness.
The gender play element can also be very exciting. Hetero sex can be subverted with a strap-on if you’re queer. Genderqueer, masculine off-center, and other people who identify with having a penis find using such a toy feels right for them. They can also be excited by simulating oral sex with a strap-on.
9. To go Against the Grain
When we decide to cross taboos, we gradually, but surely chip away at them. In the past, the mere use of toys or having anal sex was taboo. Now, these things have gone mainstream. When you remove the stigma from a certain sexual act, you’re helping others overcome fear and insecurity. Then, it becomes easier for them to experience pleasure from their urges and needs. It also helps do away with shame and embarrassment.
Some males enjoy pegging precisely because of the taboo. What’s more, some enjoy the sensation of being on the receiving rather than the giving end. It comes with a feeling of submitting to your partner and being vulnerable. It is, effectively, a switch of power roles.
It’s important to point out that enjoying anal play does not make a man bi or gay. It only means you enjoy it. It does not involve sexual orientation at all.
The Beauty of Role Reversal Using a Strap-On For Men
Reversal is rarely a mistake in the bedroom and using a strap-on is an amazing way to reverse submissive-dominant roles. You can observe power exchange on a physical level and experience sex on a new emotional one. There is no greater myth than that the penis should be the sole source of pleasure.
You’re depriving yourself of a lot of sexual pleasure by continuing to believe and uphold it. If you’re only seeing sex based on your biological “equipment”, it only leads to more and more pressure to perform – and anxiety.
During sex, the focus should be shifted from the ego to pleasure. Genital stimulation isn’t the sole source of enjoyment. Some people will say they don’t want to use strap-ons because they don’t derive physical pleasure from them. However, pleasing your partner can contribute to your physical pleasure on an unfathomable level.
