Know More About Pregnancy Sex: Tips, Positions, and More
Getting horny when you’re pregnant is like wanting to watch a horror movie as a 12-year-old. You know it’s absolutely harmless because the ghost isn’t going to climb out of the screen but somehow it still seems spooky. (To assure you about the ghost, no, it does not happen, contrary to some really popular horror movies out there.) The same goes for sex while you or your partner is pregnant. You’ve heard it’s safe but somehow, you still can’t stop being afraid of pregnancy sex.
I mean, there are just so many things to think about and so much to consider. We aren’t asking questions like ‘what if it hits the baby?’ anymore (or are we?) but ‘what if something goes wrong?’ is right there on top of everything. The fear comes from the fact that most miscarriages happen in the first trimester.
So, it’s better to just stay away from sex altogether. Yeah? No. You must be thinking, what does this person (meaning, me) know about being pregnant? You don’t see a protruding belly right in front of me so my opinion shouldn’t matter. If sex is something that has even a 0.001% chance that it could disturb the baby, sex is off the table.
I know, it feels that way right now. But when those hormones hit you hard and you’re sitting on your bed playing imaginary porn inside your head…you’re going to want to listen to my opinion.
Inside The Article…
I’ve grown up with sisters and I grew up in a family where we talked about everything. So naturally, when one of my sisters was expecting I was expected to be around and listen to her.
And so I listened to her go on about everything – and I mean everything – that goes on inside a pregnant woman’s body. Because I like being informed about what I’m dealing with, I started reading more and researching pregnancy. And of course, because I’m a sex (and sex toy) enthusiast, an article like this wasn’t far behind.
This article will talk about women and how pregnancy affects women’s libido, among other things. It will also include some positions you could comfortably try. And most importantly, you’ll find out how safe (and it really is safe, you’ll know) it is to have sex when you’re expecting your bundle of joy. Because trust me, giving up sex was never the answer.
Pregnancy Sex And You And Your Trimesters…
Before we move any further, I would like to clear it out that consensual sex is great, however, the position you’re in matters. Although, when you’re pregnant you must have a doctor. And if that doctor forbids you to have sex (yes, they won’t request you or suggest that maybe you should lay off being intimate for a while, they’ll downright forbid you), then don’t have sex.
It’s like a statutory warning and there’s a good reason for it, really. Your doctor would know best. I can bring to you all the information I can about sexual positions and frequently asked questions about pregnancy sex but if the doctor says your health isn’t up for it, listen to them. Most women have no problem having sex while they’re pregnant, but there are exceptions.
Sometimes you can be paranoid, especially as first-timers, so this article will help with relieving some of that paranoia. When you read about multiple women not just engaging in but enjoying pregnancy sex, you’d want to join in. Plus, read on to find out more about what changes your body goes through. All the signs sure do point towards a fine sexual experience while you’re pregnant!
But, if you’ve been specifically asked to not have sex while you’re carrying another human being inside you, it’s best not to. Ask your doctor the reasons behind this forbidding of pleasure and stay informed about the conditions of your health. It might be that your body needs some rest or that it isn’t willing to open up, whatever may be the reason, accept it.
Allowed by the doctor or not, you can still read this article to know more about what’s happening to your body though. The three trimesters are quite different from each other in terms of both physical and mental developments.
The First Trimester
During your first trimester, your body is still adjusting to the newly formed fetus. This period is of queasy mornings and at times, cramps. Your new-formed bodily changes might make sex the last thing on your mind. But then again, not everyone goes through these changes in a similar kind of way.
At times, your body will feel tight and refuse to open up. You might hate the sensitivity that comes with being pregnant. Oftentimes, there’s spotting and bleeding and ooh the pregnancy cravings…it’s really the experience of a lifetime. If sex is not on your mind, don’t indulge in it. But know that it’s completely safe to do it when you feel like it.
The Second Trimester
The second trimester is the golden period, as said by many. Your morning sickness will start to fade, your body will start to show that beautiful pregnancy curve, and check this, your libido will either be off the charts or completely diminished.
But don’t worry, it’s sort of waxing and waning, rather than a completely closed-off deal. What happens is that your body is flushed with hormones. Your breasts are growing and always sensitive. Your vulva is engorged and flushed with a proper blood flow.
It’s only natural your body is preparing itself for something new. And it’s a good thing. So, since you’re all accepting of this new change and happy about it, your body is also happy. The bottom line is to make sure your body gets what it needs.
The Third Trimester
In the third trimester though, when you’re actually heavily pregnant, that’s when some tips come in handy. It’s actually really good to be sexually active in your third trimester. Orgasms strengthen the pelvic muscles, so this ensures that you carry the baby to term. Moreover, your pregnant body just loves the release of a healthy dose of that oxytocin that comes with the big O.
How to communicate your needs, or how to make sure you and your partner are comfortable with each other during your pregnancy is also something to consider. As you must know, it’s not all physical.
The Important Questions To Ask…
Usually, this section comes towards the end of an article. But these questions are just too important to put off for too long. I can’t have you lose interest and wander off, you need to know and be informed about these things.
Will penetration while pregnancy hurt or poke the baby?
We’re back to square one with this question, really. But it still is one of the most asked questions. And the answer remains, no. The baby inside your belly is wonderfully protected. The uterus is quite far up your body, actually. A penis simply cannot reach or poke a fetus inside the uterus.
Moreover, let’s not forget the mucus plug that makes sure no infections reach the little one(s). Your junior is happily floating in the amniotic fluid inside you without any kind of worries in this world. Your uterus might move around a bit – it’s adjusting itself to your motions, that is all. Look at it as a sort of a mobile home for your kid.
You can feel these movements, so don’t freak out. This is your pregnancy sensitivity acting out again. As every pregnancy is different in its particular way, you might need pelvic rest and not even know it if you don’t ask. Do not assume anything, when in doubt call a doctor.
Will a sexual encounter, while I’m pregnant, hurt me?
Always remember that there will absolutely be no pain in pregnancy sex. If you feel discomfort, give your doctor a heads up about your situation. And always remember to first ask if it’s okay to engage in sexual encounters. If the good old doc gives you an A-Okay, use lube to battle with any kind of tightness.
Remember that the pelvic is super sensitive when you’re pregnant and can be irritated easily. This might lead to some bleeding. Do not panic when you see blood. You might see some spotting the next day as well. Clean yourself properly and go for a check-up.
At times, oversensitive nipples and breasts can hurt. You might end up with a burning sensation down there due to friction – stop then and take a breather. At any moment, whenever the pleasure seems to go into borderline pain – which you might like, (ahem, BDSM lovers raise hands) – but for the sake of the life you’re carrying inside of you, stop.
Read up on this article to know a bit about how to go on practicing pregnancy sex while involving just a little bit of pain in it. Technically, avoid spanking on the belly or the abdomen. And make sure you’re not restricting the blood flow to the woman’s body – that means no handcuffs for you. Anal sex is also a huge no.
Is masturbation a good idea during pregnancy?
As much as I love self-pleasure, the first two trimesters would be a good time to get that dildo out of the bedside drawer…but the third trimester isn’t for self-pleasure. Firstly, the belly would get in the way of you properly reaching down there, and secondly, you won’t be able to look at what you’re doing unless you have mirrors handy. And looking is sort of sexy.
But don’t you worry, if you’re out there craving some self-pleasure during pregnancy, all you need is a dildo with a suction cup. Simply stick that sweet sex toy to the floor and ride it. But please take measures so that you do not end up falling or hitting the hard floor. Also, make sure you use a sex toy made of 100% body-safe silicone.
And finally, don’t forget to sterilize your toy before and after use. Test the lube and any other things you’re about to use for allergies before indulging in them. A pregnant woman has a lot to worry about without some dirty (and no puns here, dirty here means ‘not clean’) sex toy giving her an infection.
I can’t / don’t want to have sex while pregnant, what to do with my partner?
Well, your partner can simply masturbate. That should do the trick. They have the option to use their hand or use a sex toy. If you wish your partner to be extra entertained, here are some of the best automatic male masturbator choices and some exciting vibrators to choose from.
Tips And Positions For Pregnancy Sex!
Pregnancy is amusing. You get wet dreams in the middle of a nap, you orgasm in your sleep, and often your nerve endings are so sensitive just a touch might feel like someone’s tickling you. So here are some things you could try and some things you could avoid for your optimum comfort!
Best positions for pregnancy sex
This is easy, try almost anything and everything that keeps the pressure off the belly. Doggy style (sex from behind), cowgirl (where the girl is on top) or reverse cowgirl (where the girl is on top, but facing away from the partner) are go-to pregnancy sex positions.
Side by side sex can also be considered. You could also try some post-coitus spooning. Depending on your mood, be mindful about pregnancy sex. Maybe after foreplay, help each other finish with some oral sex.
Tips on what to avoid during pregnancy sex:
There shouldn’t be anything weighing down on the little fellow inside you. So, the missionary position with the woman on her back is a strict no. Blood-flow compressions due to this sex position can lead to lightheadedness.
Also, make sure you’re not wearing anything tight or aren’t bound. Try and stay off your back because rest to the back is important when you’re carrying another human being inside of you. Do not lie on your stomach, and please, however rare it may be, don’t let anyone else blow air up your vagina.
To Conclude…
Finally, when we’re talking of sex – pregnant sex or otherwise – protection is of utmost importance. I know, you’re already knocked up, but what about those STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections)? If you’re engaging in sexual encounters with multiple partners or with partners whose sexual history you do not know, use that rubber.
Potential pelvic inflammatory diseases due to infections or simply due to too much unnecessary friction (missing that rubber, are you?) can lead to serious health complications. Not to scare you, but I’m talking about both miscarriage and preterm labor. So, always be protected.
Pregnancy sex can be, and is, fun when you go about it safely. Keep in mind to carry protection, lube, and a caring partner (or a dildo with mind-blowing suction) and you’re all set.
However, keep in mind that pregnancy sex MUST be discussed with your doctor before you engage in any.
